1.) What factors have lured us into thinking like "victims" in our country? When something goes wrong, what is it that makes people prone to file a lawsuit instead of take responsibility?
When I think of someone being the ‘victim’ I think of someone who cannot take the blame for something, or they don’t see any wrong in their own actions. People probably jump to lawsuits because they don’t see anything wrong with their side of the story, and they think it is a reason to get money.
2.) What is the difference between those who take responsibility and those who don't? What are symptoms or evidence of a person who assumes responsibility?
People who take responsibility are willing to take the lead (the drivers seat) and take action, as well as taking responsibility for their actions. Someone who doesn’t take responsibility sits in the ‘passenger seat’ and I can’t see them leading in a situation. Also, someone who takes responsibility isn’t afraid of learning from their experiences and owning up to their actions, good *and* bad. Someone who doesn’t take responsibility for their actions most likely wouldn’t own up to things considered bad.
3.) Think of an environment where you are more of a "passenger" than a "driver." What makes you act like a passenger instead of a driver? In your personal opinion, do you think it's okay to occasionally be a passenger? If so, please explain why so.
Large social situations and small social situations where I don’t know anyone usually send me to the passenger seat until I feel comfortable enough to move to the driver’s seat. I usually do this because I feel shy and like I should just be quiet until I have something worth talking about, but once I find my ‘place’ in the conversation I can quickly move to a driver’s seat. I do think it’s okay to be a passenger occasionally, to keep yourself well-balanced and also I think this allows yourself to hear other people.
I like how you stated that victims do not see anything wrong with their actions. I think this is a great point and it is sadly the mindset of many people. I also like how you said someone who assumes responsibility owns up to their actions, both the good and the bad. As a leader, how can you be a driver rather than a passenger? Do you think that it is important to be both?
ReplyDeleteHow do you feel if someone is genuinely a victim of something? How do you tell the difference between a genuine victim and ones like the one you described? I like that you mentioned that its good to be a passenger to hear others and allow them to be drivers some as well.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you that victims are not able to see their wrong. They usually can never accept blame for their actions. I also like hoe you said people who accept responsibility take the lead. I feel the same way about being the passenger in larger and small social situations. I think that it is okay to be a passenger until you gain comfort also.
ReplyDeleteI really liked your interpretation of "victums." I think you nailed it on the head when you said that someone who views themselves as a victum cannot take the blame or responsibity. I also agree with how you said they are not capable of seeing the problems and wrongdoing of their actions. I think this is one of the root causes as to why some people do not take responsibility and have troubling growing up/becoming an adult. Why do you think it is so important that we learn to take repsonsibility for our actions and mistakes? What do we learn from doing this?
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